Last week, stubbornness, this week humility.
If you want to make some real shifts in the realization that you are important, what you want is important, and finding support that will help you find out what you really want is doable…
If that describes you, read on…
The reason why you need to know the content contained in this post is because as you begin to reveal the real you, you will undoubtedly attract dream-stealers and critics, who may end up saying something ‘brilliant’ like, “you really ought to show a little humility”, or something.
If you gain a deeper understanding of what humility actually means, it may shock you at first.
You have been duped
A significant percentage of my clients will run across some kind emotional turbulence in and around what they think is humility. Nelson Mandela had a beautiful version of what I am talking about, which I will include later on.
First, let’s look at how dictionary.com defines humility:
humility |(h)yo͞oˈmilitē| noun a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.
“A modest or LOW view of one’s own importance…” Really? REALLY???
Why on earth would someone want you to “show a little humility” and have a “low view of [your] own importance?”
I’ll tell you why
When what I call a “well-meaning-do-gooder” asks you to demonstrate a little humility, what they are really saying is, “do you mind not being so great and strong please? You are reminding me how much my life sucks, and I don’t like it.”
They are saying, “It really makes me uncomfortable when you show your confidence and following your dream, because it is reminding me how much I have settled in my life.”
Yes, because you remind them of how much they have settled in their life!
They can’t have this, so they feel it is important to remind YOU to settle down, stop all these confidence-shenanigans, and ‘show a little humility!’
There is a different way
What if I told you that true humility is a type of subservience or submissiveness? How on earth could that be a good thing?
Let me show you
A good place to start is the speech that Marianne Williamson wrote for Nelson Mandela for his 1994 presidential inauguration, a part of which went like this:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
This pretty much captures the essence of true humility
When naysayers and dream-stealers request you to show more humility, or to be more humble, they are asking you to be less than what you really are.
If you attach your definition of humility to, “who are you not to be? You are a child of God.”This implies that the deepest form of humility is that you are “powerful beyond measure”, just like that which created you.
Life is this infinite miracle, and you are an expression of that life-force, so, by proxy, you are an infinite miracle and you would do well to live your life from that place.
This will blow your mind
When you decide to be small, you actually demonstrate arrogance as being strong enough to move away from what created you, not humility.
Yes, the humility that the well-meaning-do-gooder asks of you is really a form ofarrogance.
True humility will ask you to shine as brightly as possible, because if you show that kind of humility, the kind of humility that says, “I am a creation of that which created everything, therefore I should go forth and create, like that which created me!”
In fact, I would dare say that you have a kind of obligation to go forth and shine, because when you submit to the idea that you “were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within [you], […], [you] are liberated from [your] own fear, [your] presence automatically liberates others.”
This is important
It would be difficult to describe the significance and advantage to you considering this point of view regarding humility.
What if you’ve had it all wrong?
What if you were born to shine? What if you submitted to this idea?
What if you became subservient to the idea that you are important? That what you want is important? And that you ought to ‘show a little humility’ and GET ON WITH THE BUSINESS OF SHINING BRIGHTLY???!
I feel it is time for you to show a little humility. In fact, I feel it is time for you to show A LOT of humility, true humility.
I feel it is time for you to get off your high horse and start acting like you belong here, and that your life is important, and that your playing small does not serve the world.
I don’t know what not playing small would look for you, but I would wager that it would make you feel happier, lighter, brighter and more content.
This would be your greatest gift of all.
What do you think? Please leave me a comment, or Like this post, and help get the word out about how you’ve been duped.
Time to shine grasshopper!
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